Which is why we’ve asked some brides to share their top advice of how to stay calm whilst planning your wedding:
Jen, West Sussex
Spreadsheets and doing things together… Planning, checklists and spreadsheets were the key for me. They helped me control the budget, know what I could pull back on, splurge on, and see things that we really didn’t need. We also had dance lessons which were so fun. It was nice to spend every few days with my fiancé and get a bit silly and romantic! And, even though he didn’t do as much wedding prep as me, it was nice to do something together towards the big day. Doing things with your fiancé can take a little stress away for a day. We even did the invites together which was a lot of fun!
Roan, South Africa
Focus on the marriage, not the wedding I would recommend staying focused on the reason you’re getting married and the marriage, not the wedding itself. The wedding will be an amazing day regardless of what happens (I know, as a wedding photographer and having gotten married myself!).
Plan time out of planning Firstly, be very clear in your mind on what will make your day special for your other half and yourself. Not anyone else… Also, very clear and precise planning helps. Also make sure in the last few months before the big day that you plan to literally forget your wedding. (e.g. set aside date nights or girlfriend outings!) and that is where the precise planning comes in. You have to make time for it.
Louise, East Sussex
Do what you want! It annoyed me when people said “oh you don’t want to do that… you can’t make your own flowers and you don’t want to be doing that the day before you wedding.” The thing is, I actually DID and it was great. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You know yourself and your partner best.
Mrs Cross, West Country
Invest in a wedding planner journal Buy a good wedding planner or journal that gives a timeline of when certain things should be booked by. I used this as the basis of my planning. Also, it’s really rewarding filling in the details and ticking off those boxes – not to mention handy having everything in one place. Mine now doubles as an address book!
We hope that these tips and advice really help take the pressure off as you embark on wedding planning. Try not to take it all on yourself and share the load as much as you feel comfortable, and let people help where they can!
And, if booking an ice cream van for your wedding is something that’s on your to-do list, we’ll be happy to give you quote to help see if it fits in your budget. You can even put a deposit down to secure the date and pay the balance just before the wedding.